How to find true love!?

The post might sound very cliche due to the ‘true love‘ word in the title, but i would say the theory that I give about love in this article is a very personal take but the wisdom arises from our ancient scriptures and perspectives. This knowledge about relationships from age old sages is still applicable to the modern day generation trying to search for it everywhere. Unfortunately, not everybody has access to these books and manuscripts written in one of the oldest languages in the world ‘Tamil’.

This is therefore an attempt at spreading the word. If it resonates with you…

Here is the part 1: What is even ‘true love’!?

Nobody will ever find the right person anywhere. Why!? Because there is nothing called ‘the right person‘. Nonetheless, the first and foremost thing to figure out is whether I the right person or not!?

And there are no right people on this planet. You have your non-sense, others have their own non-sense. But we can adjust to each other’s nonsense.

Relationships are formed for various reasons: there are emotional needs, there are bodily needs, there are psychological needs, social needs and various other kinds of needs. So when you go towards somebody with so many needs, you are going as a beggar and beggars cannot be choosers. A beggar always eats whatever comes his or her way, isn’t it!?

If you really want to make a choice in this world,The first and foremost thing is that you ought to bring yourself to a place where your experience of life is pleasant for your own self.

If you are wonderful right now, let’s see what gets drawn to this. If you are wonderful, wonderful things will happen to you in every way possible, in terms of career, in terms of relationships, in terms of family life and so on.

The best things will happen to you because you made yourself like this. Thus, instead of trying to work on somebody and fixing them, you need to work upon yourself and make yourself so wonderful that everybody would want to be with you.

This universe makes unique kind of idiots. If you believe that you are one kind of an idiot and the others are a different kind, you will understand their nonsense because you know your stuff. if you think you are perfect and God has made another perfect person just for you some where else on this Earth, your are certainly heading for disaster.

Ok let’s be serious and ask this question to ourself,

What’s the aim of my life!? 

What’s the meaning of this life!? 

A life without a goal is like a ship without a rudder. 

If you want love, be that love, because if you love someone it means that it gives you joy, not for them, that is what love means. If you love them you will let them do whatever they think gives them happiness. 

Fish love,
If you tell me that you love fish, would you like to eat that fish…!? Don’t you love to see the fish’s movements, colour, texture etc!? Don’t you think if you say that you love fish and then end up eating fish, it is not that you love fish but that you love yourself and that’s why you consume fish to fulfill  your desires.

A lot of our love is like this. You say that I love this person, but you actually love yourself more. So much so that you want to have this one person for your hunger.

You can contemplate on this story and see what are we doing!

To be continued…